You may have heard it said that you can’t love others if you can’t love yourself. Having self-love means you care about and like yourself in a healthy and balanced way. It means you have self-respect and believe you are worthy of love.
When self-love is lacking in a person’s life, it indicates that they have a low self-esteem. They do not “esteem” or value themselves as highly as they ought to. They might not really believe they are loveable. And the more they dislike themselves, the more hindered they become in receiving love from others. As a result, they are unable to love others as deeply as they would want to.
It is important to note that what appears as excessive self-love in some people also indicates a poor self-esteem. These individuals come across as arrogant and boastful. However, they yearn for admiration in hopes that it will satisfy their desperate longing for genuine love.
Loving and esteeming others fully begins with loving and esteeming yourself in an appropriate and healthy way.
When you.....
Love is an expression and assertion of self-esteem.
~Ayn Rand
Everyone wants to be loved. Everyone is worthy of love.
Allow for mistakes and forgive your flaws
Are patient and understanding with yourself
Are not self-deprecating or self-exalting
Satisfied with your best effort
Believe in yourself and don’t give up
Acknowledge your good qualities and strengths and accept your weaknesses
Learn to like and appreciate who you are
Explain what esteeming yourself means to you and how you think it relates to loving others.
How can a low self-esteem make it difficult to receive love and to love others?
Review the list of examples of loving and esteeming yourself. How do they apply to you?
Is self-love lacking or excessive in your life? How can you bring it into balance?
Think about the way you feel about yourself. In what ways is it helping or hindering you from loving others?
Then, you will be much better able to do so for others. Love, respect, and appreciation will transfer to all other areas and relationships in your life.
The way you esteem yourself will be directly related to the way you esteem others. That is why a positive self-esteem is an important part of our experience of love. Self-esteem can be built and improved as you acknowledge and receive love in your life and as you love yourself and others as best as you can. In its own miraculous way love increases in our lives as we give it away. The more we give, the more we have to give. So you can start right where you are no matter how little you may feel you have to give. There is so much more love for you to experience.
